Etiquette for Church

Church etiquette is applicable to re-enacting. Not only are prayers often said as part of the formation ceremonies, but most events include a Sunday morning worship service. There are also sometimes prayer services, memorials services, and funerals at which prayers are said, and often a brief religious talk is given. Also, church attendance was important to many, many folks during that age, and the period etiquette manuals deal with etiquette in church. As much as anything, the etiquette manuals remind their readers of the need to exercise restraint in their behavior, and to demonstrate an appropriate level of piety in church activities in honoring and respecting God.

In contrast with today’s churches in which children are often kept separate from the adult worshippers until they are of grade-school age, children of the period were expected to be part of the worship services. It was incumbent upon the parents to raise their children from infancy to be able to sit still and quietly during divine services in deference to their pew neighbors, to the pastor, but most especially before God. Having children in the adult worship services did not absolve the parents of their responsibility to catechize their children, as well as to read with them from the Bible daily and to pray with them. The role of religious educator fell, in godly homes, to the parents as well as the pastor and the Sunday School teachers.

As for matters of form, they reflect those of society. Gloves were to be worn by ladies while in church. A man should remove his hat during any church function, whether indoors or out, as a sign of respect to God.

A man was expected to remove his hat upon entering the building in which the church was to meet. When he had the privilege to escort a lady to church, he walks by her side as they advance to the pew in which they will be seated. At the pew, he will turn and nod to the lady as an indicator that she should enter the pew - ladies are always to enter the pew first.

Should a lady enter a full church and be unable to readily secure a seat for herself, a gentleman should offer his seat to her.

A subdued atmosphere should attend a meeting place of worship where all should be preparing their hearts and minds to receive the Word of God. All distractions should therefore be avoided, which would include loud noises, bright colors, an excess of jewelry, extravagant or gaudy clothing, and talking in church. It is highly inappropriate to socialize during the service or mass. Quiet moments, either before or during the service, should be given over to prayer and meditation.

Snoring in church is a public disgrace, and the height of vulgarity.







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